Developmental (Childhood) Trauma

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Our brains are shaped by our experience, especially from infancy through to our early twenties while the brain is being formed and various functions are “coming on-line”.

One of the most important steps in my own healing has been to learn about Developmental Trauma. This has allowed me to understand why I was in the relationships I was, how and why I was so affected by bullying and social shaming as a teen and my responses and addictions. With this understanding arose clear seeing and compassion for my struggles and pain as well as my (mostly unhealthy) strategies to soothe and protect myself. I have been able to finally let go of judging myself and that changes everything.

Children have a survival imperative for a safe, consistent caretaker of their well-being we and experience trauma when that is not in place or is sporadic. Trauma in this case includes physical, emotional, verbal, ritual and sexual abuse. Chronic neglect, not being seen, not feeling we matter, has an equal negative impact on the development of healthy neural pathways in the brain and on social trust.

 The next 3 Sundays we are focusing on Developmental Trauma:

October 30th:  Learn about Developmental Trauma and the role it plays in addiction

November 6th:  The affect on us personally and the impact in our family of origin

November 13th:  Impact of Developmental Trauma in our children and close relationships

 The safe container for exploring this painful area is permeated with kindness and compassion for ourselves and for others.  I allowed my son from age eight to be exposed to my then partner who was abusive.  I understand this now and am out of denial.  I see it clearly and I take full responsibility.  And I know myself to be human.  I made mistakes.  Through the Living Inquiries I have been able finally to stop shaming myself and to heal.  I invite you to experience this for yourself.  Understanding Developmental Trauma is an important step in our healing.

 We invite you to join us for these three meetings as our guest.  We meet at 4 PM Pacific for 90 minutes.  Each meeting will have room for checking in, personal peer support and resting.  Please contact us:  kilobyfamilyservices@gmail.com for the Zoom link. If you missed the first session, we’re happy to send you the recording so you can join us for the others.